The Art of Believing in Yourself

Believing in yourself is one of those things that is completely in your control yet seems to allude many of us our entire lives. Why? Because there is not a step-by-step formula for success. There is not a one-size fits all answer each of us can follow and be guaranteed confidence and self-esteem. And yet, the key to believing in our selves lies within each of us. Accessible in every moment of every day.

Our thoughts about our self are the main force behind our beliefs.

Are you aware of what are you saying to yourself day after day? In each moment? Are you aware of the conversations going on in your head? Are there other people talking to you (in your head) – such as your parents, your boss or partner? Are you repeating the same negative statements to other people over and over again?

Taking control of the conversations with yourself is the first step to believing in yourself.

Believing in yourself is an art because the journey to knowing you will achieve a goal or successfully accomplish a difficult task is different for each of us. And it requires you to be creative. To look at yourself and your beliefs differently.

Untangling the knots

Imagine your thoughts, that incessant internal conversation going on in your mind, as a big ball of string all tangled up. Each string is a statement or conversation thread. Your job is to first recognize a string, pull it out and separate it from all the others. And then determine if it is your string or not. Is this statement true? Is this me talking or someone else? Do I choose this string for me today? This string may have served you when you were young, but no longer does today.

YOUR strings are the truth about yourself. They are loving, kind, supportive statements and beliefs. They are your true Spiritual self, which is never unkind or unloving.

Other people’s strings are knotted up in your ball. And there are strings that you have taken as yours but do not speak and know your truth. Your job is to evaluate each string and make a conscious decision to keep it or not.

In order for you to believe in yourself you need to not only master your thoughts, but ensure your beliefs support you and aren’t tearing you down at every turn.

Fresh Tracker John Allcock shares on the Fresh Tracks podcast that “awareness gives us the power to realize we are choosing to listen to negative thoughts and the choice to choose positive thoughts”. The art of believing in yourself requires some introspection, examination, and trust.

Curating the awareness of your thoughts, your beliefs, your intentions is how you begin to believe in yourself.

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Are You Failing or this Part of the Growth Process?

The journey to bringing your dreams to fruition can seem long. Filled with ups and downs, twists and turns, any Soul can be filled with anguish and frustration in the anticipation of their desires and the roller coaster ride getting them there!

Doing anything for the first time, let alone creating a big vision, is not usually a direct shot and it’s important you learn to discern when to change direction and when to quit.

Quitting is a choice – it is not an outcome.

Failure is a judgement. An opinion – it is not an outcome.

Changing direction is a guided choice. It is movement.

As you continue to search for different ways to produce different results, different paths will appear. How do you determine if you should follow them? When is it taking you off your path your path and when is it moving you forward?

By its very nature, as we create Fresh Tracks, we are doing things we have never done before and we are forced to make decisions. Often tough ones.

In our Fresh Tracks podcast interview with Rhett Power, he shares two important things with us about his ability to keep going on to build a multi-million-dollar business despite the appearance of failure.

  1. He knows and respects his own tolerance level.
  2. He does not go into anything with a plan B. He expects to achieve his goal and not achieving it is not a possible outcome.

Are you worried about failing? Here are a few guidelines for you to follow when manifesting something big:

  • Don’t share your vision with others. Particularly when you are practicing spiritual principles (along with taking the action required!). Other people will most likely doubt your abilities, especially if they are not studying spiritual principles themselves.
  • Humanity has a collective consciousness that vibrates at a certain level. Do your best to take yourself out of it so you can rise to your own higher level. Study, practice, take action, and insulate yourself with power and faith of understanding and consciously utilizing Universal Principles.
  • Trust your intuition. Discerning between fear and your internal GPS system can take practice yet is important as they are both different and distinct feedback.
  • Ask yourself probing questions such as “Am I listening to my intuition or am I forcing something that should be let go?”

Don’t be seduced by the hypnotic trance of fear. There is nothing outside of you that has authority and dominion over your life, says Lola Wright, Spiritual Director at Bodhi Spiritual Center.

Assessing whether you are experiencing fear or your intuition is speaking to you is vital in determining your next step and avoiding failure.

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Understanding Universal Law

Discovering your beliefs, particularly beliefs that don’t support you in creating Fresh Tracks, is an important part of changing the results in your life.

When looking at beliefs we must start at the beginning. Where do we come from and what are we made of? It’s important to understand we all have access to the same tools and come from the same substance. How we use this substance is what varies and is why some people seem to achieve their goals easily while others struggle. 

One of my favorite quotes is by the great teacher Thomas Troward. He said “Principle is not bound by precedent.” To me this means that just because I have always gotten a certain result—such as never making more than $20,000 a month in my business—doesn’t mean I can’t make more than $20,000 a month in my business (precedent). Most of us can easily agree with this.

The subtlety in this statement is: what does Principle mean?

Principle is Universal Law, and to create our lives with intention we all need to know, understand, and master what IS possible. What is Universal Law? What is Principle and where am I following it and where am I not following it?

Universal Laws cross all religions and are spiritual truths by which we all live. They are simply truths.

If you are struggling to create a change in your life, or certain parts of your life are not working, you are struggling because you are not following a Universal Law correctly.

If you don’t even know what they are it’s hard to determine if you are following them correctly!

Why are Universal Laws important to know and understand? Because many of our beliefs (both conscious and unconscious) are not in alignment with Universal Law. In fact, some of our beliefs contradict the laws and that is why understanding these may be the most important thing you learn and study right now.

Be open to the fact that if you are not receiving a result in your life it is because you are not following a Universal Law. Yet you might be doing what YOU KNOW TO BE TRUE. And what you know to be true may be wrong.

Recognize where you have a belief that is not in alignment with a Universal Truth, and then see where this untrue belief is stopping you from creating what you want in life. Following this process is a game changer and can make creating your Fresh Tracks effortless!

About Kelly Robbins

Kelly Robbins is the producer of the Fresh Tracks with Kelly Robbins podcast and the author of Trust Your Next Step: Creating the Confidence to Cut Fresh Tracks.

A proven leader, master communicator and teacher, Kelly’s 17 year track record helping others catapult their lives and careers by creating Fresh Tracks is unprecedented. Today she helps others live their divine purpose, experience life as a fun adventure, and trust their next step always.

Kelly has a masters degree in Communications from the University of Denver and is a licensed practitioner with the Centers for Spiritual Living.

 

3 Steps to Stop Fear From Stopping You

It’s terrifying and is something we avoid experiencing at all costs. It can sneak up on us in the most unexpected ways, often paralyzing us mid-step. And yet, it’s a perfectly normal and natural occurrence we all have.

Fear. It’s part of the human experience. Some of us experience it more frequently than others and, the more we push ourselves to experience new things and to expand, the more likely we are to experience fear frequently.

Fear is both an instinct and an emotion. The chemical response, the adrenaline, is instinctual to everyone, while the emotion of fear is unique to each person. Different things will trigger fear in different people.

Let’s take a deeper look at fear and when we should pay attention to it and when we should keep going in spite of it.

Instinctual fear vs. Emotional fear

Fear pops up for two reasons and it’s your job to learn to differentiate between the two. There’s instinctual fear that protects you from being eaten by tigers and not killed by passing cars. This fear saves lives.  

And then there’s fear that appears when we are afraid because we are stepping beyond our comfort zone – creating Fresh Tracks. In this instance your body physically responds as if you are about to be eaten by a tiger, adrenaline courses through your body, your heart beats rapidly. Your instinct is to save yourself from danger, except it’s not from a tiger, it’s from yourself!

You are afraid because you are pushing past the edge of what you know to be safe. Examples of this may be asking for a promotion, raising your rates, or speaking in public.

In both instances your body is responding in the same way, however you don’t need to react the same way. So how do you discern the difference between the two?

  1. Be aware. Start by learning how you react when you are afraid. Get to know yourself. Do you shut down? Hide out in your house? Get quiet? Drink? Run away? Blame others?
  2. Practice recognizing the difference between the two types of fear. Having the consciousness to recognize your body is responding to something and your life is not on the line is the beginning.
  3. Recognize fear as it’s happening. Make a conscious decision to keep going in spite of fear.

In my podcast interview with Dr. Friedemann Schaub, he shares tips for how to recognize your fear and anxiety patterns and how they can impact your ability to cut Fresh Tracks.

The ability to differentiate between the two types of fear is mandatory to learning to trust yourself and to push past the invisible boundaries you keep hitting in your struggles. 

Part of the journey to creating Fresh Tracks, trusting yourself, and living a life of purpose is self-awareness. Take the time to learn about you. How is emotional fear thwarting your drive to cut Fresh Tracks?

Discover the Next Steps to Your Fresh Tracks in Kelly’s free video training here now. 

 

Forget Not Playing Small. Are You Living Large?

In today’s world I find we talk more about “not playing small” than we do about “living large”. I don’t believe that serves us because the two are, in fact, incredibly different things. The wording even feels different – say each out loud and see for yourself. They are different vibrations and have different meanings and intentions.

The lens you look at your life through to “not be small” is different than the lens you look through to ‘live large”. I encourage each of us to feel into and create what we DO want, not focus on avoiding what we don’t want. Why? Because thoughts are things!

Less debt or more wealth?

Playing small vs living large is similar to focusing on creating abundance rather than getting out of debt. The two are different and require different approaches. When you have a goal of getting out of debt you are focusing on what you don’t want, debt. What you put your attention on expands. So, we want to focus our attention on creating abundance. That’s what we want more of. The same holds true for living a large life vs a small life. 

This week we are exploring what it means to live large.

As our Fresh Tracks podcast guest Elizabeth Crook shares, the more we live large the happier and healthier we will be. Living in a way that aligns our purpose, our values, what energizes us, our talents and synchronizes that with the impact we want to have on our families, our businesses and the world allows us to live a large life.

Marianne Williamson has a famous quote “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.” I love this statement because it rings true! 

The question then becomes; at what moment do I make a decision to play small rather than live large? 

Here are a few questions to ask yourself and see:

  1. Are you living your life for yourself or other people? Are you allowing others to dictate your choices and actions?
  2. If you died today, would you die fulfilled? Have you lived your life to the fullest? Do you give each day your fullest?
  3. Do you live with intention and purpose? When was the last time you did something that scared you? That you pushed yourself.
  4. Where is your personality or sense of self out of balance? 

Take some time and think about, perhaps journal, what it means to YOU to live large. What can you do today to do more of that? 

Discover the Next Steps to Your Fresh Tracks in Kelly’s free video training here now. 

Celebrate my Fresh Tracks

I have an exciting announcement I’d like to share in lieu of our feature article in this issue.

After five years of studying, practicing, and training I am now a Licensed Practitioner with the Centers for Spiritual Living. I feel a huge sense of accomplishment and strength now that I have completed the training and am officially licensed.

What does this licensing mean and how can I use it to serve you are just a few of the questions I am asking myself as I bask in the newness of my new role as a practitioner.

The Journey

I started taking classes about five years ago to better understand Universal Law because I was (and still am) completely fascinated with what it is and how it works. If we are each responsible for our own expression of life and we aren’t living a life we love, how do we change it? Is it different for you than for me and if so, why?

Over the last five years I have trained extensively on understanding and mastering Universal Law, Spiritual Principles and how the use (or misuse) of them effects our lives. How does consciously understanding and using the natural laws of the universe effect our lives and our ability to cut Fresh Tracks? Our ability to make money? Have healthy relationships? Experience physical and mental health? Enjoy a lucrative career? Not feel lost and alone?

I had learned quite a bit about Universal Law in the extensive business coaching I’ve done over the last 11 years and I realize there is a personal power in understanding how to consciously manifest. In fact, my book, Trust Your Next Step, has a full chapter (Chapter 5) that goes in-depth on the use of Universal Law. However, the practitioner training I completed took this understanding to a new and deeper level.

Does Spirituality belong in business and marketing conversations? Absolutely yes. Mastering the energy that flows in, as and through us is vital to our health, growth, expansion, and ability to contribute and serve.

Here’s what I do know. The coaching I do has the potential to go much deeper with people. In addition to the coaching I currently offer, I will now offer individual, one-time, private sessions that include affirmative prayer and teaching/revealing spiritual truths in any area of your life. In our session you will develop the tools to take charge of your life through effective thinking and spiritual understanding by exploring your own power and potential.

My Fresh Tracks involve owning and embracing myself as a Spiritual leader, author, speaker, coach and teacher. As such, I’m taking the teachings from my book a step further:

I thank you for being with me on this journey and I look forward to both of us continuing to cut Fresh Tracks!

 

3 Steps to Trusting Your Decisions

Making decisions can be tough. Particularly when you are creating Fresh Tracks and stepping into new and uncharted territory. Why is making a decision so difficult when doing new things? Because you don’t have a history to support or justify your decision, particularly if it doesn’t turn out the way you choose.

In the first chapter of my book, Trust Your Next Step: Creating the Confidence to Cut Fresh Tracks we take a deep dive into making a true decision and what it entails. Part of what we review is your awareness, intention, decision, and action.

The truth is most of us are not taught how to make a true decision, and yet decision-making is such an important aspect of our life as humans. We are gifted with the ability to choose. It’s what sets us apart from everything else. And to top it off, according to Fresh Tracker Dr. Gary Klein on the Fresh Tracks podcast, what many of us were taught about how to make decisions is completely wrong! Most decision-making is done on a subconscious level and happens quickly. Not plotted out on a flow chart.

Making decisions on a conscious level and cultivating confidence and trust in yourself involves some self-reflection. How do you make decisions (quickly, intuitively, slowly, after months of research, you don’t unless you have to)? How often do you stick with the decisions you do make?

Here are a few factors that may be playing a role in your ability, or inability, to make a true decision.

Trust
Making a decision is also an exercise in how much you trust yourself. Decision-making is overloaded with beliefs and feelings that you may not be aware of at first glance. Not trusting yourself or your ability to make the right decision, but also trusting yourself that you will follow through and stick to your decision once you’ve made it are key motivators behind these beliefs. Next time you are in a position to make a decision, slow down and listen to your body. What’s it telling you? And how much of that do you agree with?

Fear
Fear frequently reigns its ugly head when it’s time to make a decision. Particularly when cutting Fresh Tracks! We may be afraid to lose something in making one choice over another. Or we are unwilling to give up the status quo – even if we say we want change, our decision-making doesn’t support that. Where is fear coming up for you in your decision-making?

Mindset
One last factor that dramatically effects your decisions is your belief about your ability to complete the task. Your mindset affects your decision-making. So, when confronted with making a different choice or when cutting Fresh Tracks and approaching something new, stop and examine your mindset. What are your beliefs about the matter? Why does it matter to your decision? Do you believe yourself and what you are committing to?

Trusting yourself when making decisions, taking action from a place of power, and stepping boldly into your path and purpose are all reasons to continue moving forward on your path cutting Fresh Tracks.

I thank you for being with me on this journey and I look forward to both of us continuing to cut Fresh Tracks!

Discover the Next Steps to Your Fresh Tracks in Kelly’s free video training here now. 

Book Launch Lessons from a First-Timer

After much waiting the book, Trust Your Next Step, has finally launched and is on the bookshelves. It has been a whirlwind month and I finally feel I have a moment to breathe. The support and encouragement from my friends and community has been overwhelming – I truly feel the love and it was unexpected.

For much of the last 17 years I have built and run my business largely online. Marketing the book has been different in a few ways and I’d like to share a few tidbits with you.

  1. Amazon is a different beast. As an author they have been incredibly easy to work with and helpful as I learn the ropes. However, unlike online sales through my website, I don’t know how many books I’ve sold until the publisher sends my royalty check in October!

  2. Making friends with book buyers at local bookstores is fun. An exercise in who do I know that can introduce me to who I want to know.

  3. Big differences in being a “local” author and self-publishing vs working with a publisher. Definitely are advantages and disadvantages to both. I choose to play with the big boys and not be a local author. So far that has not always worked in my favor at local bookstores.

  4. I now know a lot more about negotiating with publishers and will do some things differently next time. Who knows a literary agent?

  5. There is a world of ‘authors’, and there are folks who write books to grow their business and use their books as business cards. Not all of these books are well written, yet the purpose and the intention of the book is clear, it’s to support an overall structure and scalability of a business. Which am I and how do I show up has been a question I’m asking myself.

A month has passed and I’ve already done several things I will do differently next time. I won’t call them mistakes, just lessons I’ve learned about myself, what I want, and how I choose to show up and serve others in the world.

Introspection

As I write this I feel incredibly introspective as I mull where I stand and how I serve others. How big am I playing? Am I being true to myself? Could I, should I, have been more vulnerable in the book? How far am I going to push myself on this next book? Yes, I have started the next book – which takes chapter five, “The Stuff You’ve Got to Work With”, to a much deeper level.

I did my first book reading at a church. Which awes me. A few short years ago I not only didn’t go to church, but I had a hard time believing in God and struggled with organized religion. I had such a charge around all of it – of course I should have known all that “charge” was there for a reason. Exploring my truths about religion vs spirituality has been a big part of my journey the last six years. I now see that where I squirm the most is where the most reward is. Perhaps where I am supposed to be…

With that said, where are you squirming the most? Where are you staying within the boundaries set by others? Where are you not seeing the opportunity that most certainly surrounds you? Why are you not trusting yourself?

www.TrustYourNextStep.com

Not Earning What You Think You Should? Three Secret Tips for Using the Law of Compensation Correctly

Wouldn’t it be great if you could make as much money as you want, whenever you want? To have the ability to simply wish upon a million dollars and make it so? Immediately.

Unfortunately, most of us are not there quite yet. But don’t despair! The key to improving our finances and any other way we are rewarded is to understand and correctly implement the Law of Compensation.

Ralph Waldo Emerson says in his famous Law of Compensation essay, “Every act rewards itself.” What this means is when we do our tasks the best we can, we bring out the best in ourselves. When we become too large for where we are right now, we will then draw something larger to us, which might be more money, more love, more confidence, etc. (The Law does not limit itself to money alone as compensation.)

What’s important to know about the Law of Compensation is that we cannot draw something bigger to ourselves until we first become larger. It is our responsibility to become larger and continue to grow. We can do this by using the Law of Cause and Effect and implementing “causes” in our life that will lead to the effect we seek.

It is the order of nature to grow.

Scientists tell us that the Universe and everything in it is growing and always has been. It is the order of nature to grow and expand. Each of us is designed for progress and growth because it is the nature of human beings to grow and expand. If we are not growing we are dying.

Just as a crab molts and sheds it outer shell, we must do the same as we grow. Yet we often resist this personal expansion! We hang on to old friends, jobs we don’t like, beliefs that are no longer true for us, and even our faith that no longer serves us. We resist releasing old friends. We idealize the old times, the old us, not believing we can recreate the amazing times of the past.

The truth is when we do this we don’t grow. In fact, we impair the Law of Compensation. We can’t make more if we don’t become more. We can’t become more if we are hanging on tightly to the old.

Here are three steps you can take to use the Law of Compensation more effectively:

  1. Do you give more than we are paid for? Examples include going through the motions of projects and doing what’s required but not having enthusiasm or caring about the results. Doing what’s expected and nothing else. You can counter this by being fully present in the moment and completing tasks with intention for positive outcomes. These are just two ways to break through the monotony of repetition or boredom.
  2. Implement causes in life that will lead to the desired effects. For example, if you desire to double your income, the possibility needs to be there that it can happen. If you are working the maximum number of hours a day at a fixed rate, the income has no opportunity to change. There needs to be a definite plan, along with the demand and expectation, to make more.
  3. Evaluate what you are hanging on to that needs to be let go. You can use your intuition here and trust what comes up – even if you don’t like it! Go through friends, jobs, homes, foods, lifestyle, spiritual practices, religions. Anything that comes up is game.

The Law of Compensation is an obedient Law. It is important to remember that we cannot draw something bigger to ourselves until we first become larger. No one will do this for us, and it requires us to be self-motivated, maintain a sense of urgency, and take repeated action.

How to Think Like a Boss: The Two Principles You Must Master

Olympian Ester Ledecka knows firsthand the rewards of cutting Fresh Tracks, creating an astounding upset in winter sports history by doing her own thing her own way.

Winter sports enthusiasts know – skiers aren’t good at snowboarding. And snowboarders can’t ski if their life depended on it. The two sports are completely different. Both the mechanics of the sports and the culture of each are night and day. In fact, the ski industry is known for snubbing snowboarders and consider snowboarding more of a “performance” than a true sport.

Along comes Czech Ester Ledecka – who didn’t give a hoot about athletic norms as she became not only the first woman to compete in two sports in any winter Olympics, but she also won two gold medals; one in women’s super-G Alpine skiing and the parallel giant slalom in snowboarding.

This was a complete upset in the Alpine ski world. Why? Let’s take a look….

When Ester raced the super-G she was the 26th skier to come down the mountain – that’s how far behind she was in the ranking. The race had already been called – photos of the medalists had already been taken!

Ledecka skied the super-G for fun, just to see how well she could do because she could. She won by .01 seconds and was so caught off-guard by her gold medal that she hid during the interviews. She wore her googles to her press conference afterward because, in her words, “I was not prepared to be at this ceremony, and I don’t have any makeup.”

Let’s take a look at two things Ester did to bring herself to this record breaking place in the Olympic winter sports community…

 Mastering the Law of Thinking

Ester first skied at age two and tried snowboarding at age five (because her brother was doing it). As she grew she trained in both sports and actually had separate coaching staffs and schedules in order to develop both skillsets. Ester refused to listen to advice to specialize in one sport – which she had been told to do since she was eight.

Ester made up her own mind about what she wanted to do, did the work to make it happen, and focused on doing her best. She did not set her limits on what others told her was possible. In an interview after her win, Ester shares “I have been dreaming of this moment since I was a little child… A lot of people were telling me that it is not possible to do both sports and to be on a high level in both sports and today I proved that it is possible.”

Ester would later say that skiing the super-G as a boarder rather than a skier may have given her an advantage because of her mindset. “I was standing there as a snowboarder a little bit in my heart, and all the girls are just (Alpine) specialists and there was a lot of pressure on them,” Ledecka said, recalling her thoughts when was at the start gate. “I was just, `C’mon, just do the best run you can, skier.’”

When asked what she would do if she were pressured to choose one sport she replied she would choose a different coach instead.

 Mastering the Law of Success

Ledecka is a snowboarder by trade and has only competed in skiing for two years.

She had never placed higher than 29th and came into the Olympics ranked 43rd in the world cup standings. Ester was happy to be the first person to ever compete in both sports at the Winter Olympics as that was her goal. She started the winning race in the 26th spot, beating the first-place winner by .01 seconds.

“I was probably the only snowboarder on site,” she said. “All the other girls didn’t risk a lot. There must be a lot of pressure on them. I was just trying to do my best run.”

Ester is dedicated, disciplined and focused – which is why the Law of Success is the Universal Principle that led to her ultimate gold medal. The main worry her coaches have is that she never wants to get off the slope, which in Alpine skiing can be dangerous.

“She is absolutely focused,” says her skiing coach Thomas Bank.

Her coaches say that because Ester both skied and boarded she was able to see the mountain differently when Alpine skiing. She was able to act more like an artist and create her own path rather than focusing on technique and best practices others have mastered.

The question to ask yourself is…

  1. Where are you “staying in the lines”.
  2. Where are you doing what’s expected of you rather than what you desire?
  3. Do you have the support system in place to support your decision?
  4. Are you expecting to succeed?

Overview

Belief

In herself. Didn’t listen to or follow advice from experts to specialize in one sport.

Universal Laws in Play

Law of Success – Every one of us is designed to succeed because the Universe is conspiring in your favor. Always.

Law of Thinking – Your dominant thoughts are what you manifest

Results

1st woman to compete in two Winter Olympic Sports. Two gold medals.