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How You Handle Yourself While Waiting Says a Lot About Your Ability to Stay Present

Waiting tends to suck. No one wants to do it and yet, we all end up waiting at one time or another.

There’s two types of waiting; anticipated and unanticipated.

Anticipated waiting, such as waiting for the results of a test or waiting for your book to be released from the publisher (ehm – especially if it’s WAAY longer than you expected it to be), we can plan for. While we may be impatient for the results, we also know it’s coming and can plan for it. We may plan to keep ourselves busy and keep our mind off the waiting. Or we may focus on staying positive or preparing ourselves for a poor outcome.

The second type of waiting is when you are waiting unexpectedly, such as waiting in line at the DMV or the grocery store. Waiting in traffic or for a delayed flight. Unanticipated waiting catches us off guard and often leaves us feeling out of control, frustrated or angry. Our plans are thwarted and can throw off other deadlines.

As business owners we are accustomed to being in control of many things. When we are forced to wait, particularly unexpectedly, we are definitely not in control, and that can be incredibly uncomfortable!

When we are waiting and feeling out of control we often go to two places:

  1. Victimhood – “Why am I always in the slow lane”?  “This happens to me every time I’m in a hurry”.
  2. Frustration and blame – This has more of an angry tone to it. “This is why I never get my goals accomplished”. “Those kids are always slowing me down”.

I think we can all agree, neither of these places is healthy or helping us (or the people around us) in any way. Let’s take a look at how we can wait and choose how we respond.

Tips for handling waiting more consciously

  1. Breathe. Taking a few breaths may slow you down and allow you to get ahold of yourself momentarily. You can also take this time to do some focused, meditative breathing that you always intend to do but never make the time for.
  2. Be productive. Update your to-do list or your shopping list. Delete some of those emails that are nine months old. Have you not made time to call your mom in a while? This is it!
  3. Practice being mindful and staying in the present. Do a short meditation or a focused prayer or intention setting. Be aware of what’s going on around you – how can you make the most of the situation? Can you be of service in any way?
  4. Let go. Sometimes the best way to get unstuck is to not focus on the issue, in this instance waiting, and move on to something else. Oftentimes this letting go process is what breaks you free. Accept the situation you are in and do something else.

How you react to situations, particularly the unexpected or uncomfortable, is your choice. Being conscious of how you react to waiting is just one place to focus your attention this week.

Are you ready to be more present in each moment? Perhaps our free Success in Business Meditation is right for you. Click here for immediate access!

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What Bold Action Are You Avoiding on Your Path to Creating Fresh Tracks?

There’s no denying it, if you keep doing the same thing you will keep getting the same results. The bigger your goal the bigger and bolder the actions you will need to take to accomplish it. Yet many of us stay stuck, busy, even unhappy because we are afraid of the risk involved in taking a bold step.

What does it mean to be bold? It means showing an ability to take risks. Being confident and courageous in your actions. Requiring yourself to be courageous and daring. It means being will to accomplish something despite the risks.

People who choose to be bold are inspiring not just because they get big things accomplished, but because they also instigate growth, progress, and movement for themselves and others around them, says Inc. magazine columnist and best-selling author Kevin Daum. It takes boldness to create Fresh Tracks.

The question quickly becomes what is a bold action for you?

Singing out loud in public? Showing your picture on your website? Having a voice and speaking up for yourself or sharing your opinion? Making a sales call? Asking for money? Quitting your job and risking security?

Here’s the thing. What’s bold for me is probably different than what’s bold for you. However, the way you feel after you make a bold move, after you push yourself and do something risky, that feeling is universal. Taking a bold action creates a powerful sense of strength inside of you. THAT feeling of empowerment and confidence is available to each of us. What’s required is taking the bold action.

In our Fresh Tracks with Kelly Robbins interview with Bold Betties founder Niki Koubourlis, Niki shares that tackling an outdoor adventure can be the catalyst for knowing that you are capable of way more than you previously thought. Conquering an outdoor adventure can give you the confidence to create a change in a different part of your life.

One bold move can be the catalyst to creating your Fresh Tracks.

The change that happens is not necessarily in the act itself, but it’s inside you. When you take a big, bold action there are feelings that go along with that! Fear is usually one of them.

After that comes the realization that you DID IT. There is confidence, pride, courage and much more. You become a different person. Who you are ‘being’ changes because you realize you can ‘be’ more. Be different than you were.

Your job is to capture the powerful feelings associated with the power in yourself, the “I did it!!!” feelings, and bring that confidence and the vibration of those feelings to the other areas of your life you are focusing on.

If you want to create Fresh Tracks you need to be bold. If you are too afraid to take the next step in your journey, take a bold step in another area. Perhaps an outdoor adventure. Or reading at a poetry slam. It shakes up your stuck, fearful energy and just may be the catalyst to the next tracks on your journey.

What is the next bold move you can take today?

Are you ready to make a bold move? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

 

 

Are You Even in the Game?

One of the things that stood out for me from my interview with NYT best-selling author Jen Sincero was a statement she made about being in the game. You want to make money. Perhaps you also want freedom, flexibility, to enjoy what you do and to feel like you are contributing to society.

In order to create any of that you’ve got to be swinging the bat and trying, at a minimum, to play the game. You have got to be playing in order to have even a slight chance of winning!! There are different levels to playing, but being in the game means you are doing more than ‘thinking about’ how you’d like to double your income and have a house on the beach. It means you are actively doing something to make it happen.

How are you playing the game is the next question to pose to yourself

There’s being in the game to win and there’s being in the game to not lose. And there’s sticking your toe in the water so you can say you are in the game but you aren’t really playing at all. You may not know your exact path to wealth right now, but taking action is how you figure it out. Taking big, focused action is how you play.

I was recently speaking with someone about his new business (over a few months) and he keeps putting off starting it because he didn’t know all the answers. He didn’t have everything figured out and was waiting to start until he did. He was taking weeks to do vision boards and attending networking groups in the hopes of knowing exactly who his clients would be and what they would want from him. And THEN he was going start reaching out and selling.

This idea of having it all figured out before you start quickly leads to broke and a business that never has a chance of making money because it never gets started. You aren’t helping anyone by thinking and planning and not taking action. You aren’t helping yourself by playing it safe.

Showing up vs actually playing

Other folks THINK they are in the game because they have a website and may network here and there, but they aren’t truly playing. They play in the realm of their comfort zone, which may be spending hours a day posting on social media or attending a networking event here and there. There is not much sales or business conversation happening. They show up and talk the talk, but they aren’t walking the walk. Results speak for themselves.

Like Jen said in our Fresh Tracks interview, there’s this place where you just have to get in the game and get started if you want to accomplish anything. Most of it you’ll figure out as you go along. If you aren’t even playing the game you can’t expect to win.

Are you playing the game or barely showing up? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

 

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Is Your Fuel Clean? The Importance of Caring for Yourself First

You must take care of yourself first. We’ve all heard that statement before and can intellectually agree with the logic behind it. Yet, many of us still struggle to take care of ourselves. We are disciplined in many areas in life and business and still struggle with this one.

If you’ve ever paid attention to the pre-flight training from the airlines before take-off, you’ve heard the instructions in case of emergency to put the oxygen mask on yourself first – even before your kids. You can’t take care of anyone if you are passed out!

This same truth holds true for you as a business owner. You are literally the energy and force that fuels your business — no one else is. No one else can power it for you. If you run out of fuel or are full of contaminated fuel your business will suffer. You will work harder than needed. You will struggle to make decisions. You will doubt yourself. The worry or fear you experience will enter your business and permeate its essence. Contaminating decisions, products and interactions with others. And ultimately you are not the only one that suffers. So do all of your clients, vendors, suppliers, creditors, employees and stakeholders.

The clearer your mind and the healthier your spirit, the more able you are to serve the world in the biggest most powerful way possible. For many of us that is through our business.

Think about what that means to you and where in your life you are not taking care of yourself. Where is water leaking into your gas tank? What are one or two small things you can do to change that today?

In my monthly Success in Business Meditation we learn to begin our meditation by focusing on ourselves. I teach you a simple way to do this in just 10 minutes. THEN we are in a clean and focused place to move on to what we are creating with our business. We have the capacity to expand and give in a powerful and compelling way.

Mindfulness and meditation are just one of several ways you can ‘keep your gas tank clean’.

How Do You Handle Endings?

Examining the role endings have in your new beginnings

According to William Bridges, author of Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes, each change or transition has three stages. They are Endings, the Neutral Zone and New Beginnings.

I am focusing on endings this week because they set the course for the next two. Why are endings so important? Unresolved endings impede our movement into the neutral zone, which is a necessary part of the transition process.

Are you struggling creating something new? It might because of how you ended what preceded it.

Take a look at how you’ve ended major events in your life. Marriages, relationships, businesses, trainings, and other commitments.

Objectively reviewing how you have (or have not) acknowledged the endings in your life can be an enlightening experience. Understanding how you’ve handled transitions in the past will ultimately allow you to be conscious during your current or next transition, giving you the opportunity to choose how you react.

Take some time now to reflect on changes you’ve experienced in your life. Are there any patterns you see? Let’s specifically take a look at how you handle your endings, as they affect how your beginnings start.

Change always requires you to let go of something before the new thing can start. This is the Law of Sacrifice. For example, you must end your job to step into retirement. You must end an unhealthy relationship before stepping into a healthy one. You must end making poor health choices and eating on the couch all night to enjoy a healthy and fit lifestyle.

Do you fight and resist endings? Do you acknowledge them and accept them? Do you avoid them or pretend they are not happening? Do you embrace them and welcome them? Are you usually not aware you are in an ending? Do you just want to hurry up and end so you can start your new thing?

It’s not that these experiences aren’t meant to end, but it’s how you handle them that is worth reflecting on. Remember, a caterpillar’s life must end before it cocoons and reemerges as a butterfly. The caterpillar doesn’t fight the metamorphosis, it eats and eats (preparation) to sustain itself through the transition.

The phoenix is another symbolic example of change. When the Phoenix perceives its impending death it ignites itself into a magnificent fire. In time, it reemerges from its own ashes – reborn, renewed, and very much alive.

How do you handle endings? Are you in one now and if so, what can you do to embrace the ending rather than fight or avoid it? How can you honor the ending as a part of your metamorphosis into the new?

Struggling with an ending or beginning? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

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What to do When People Don’t Listen to You

There is nothing ruder and more frustrating than speaking to someone and they clearly aren’t listening to you. While the fact that they aren’t listening says more about them you, if you notice a pattern of people not listening when you speak it may be worthwhile to check-in to your own speaking habits.

According to an article in PR Daily, less than two percent of all people have had formal education on how to listen. Odds are there are a Lot of people not truly listening! But you can’t do much about other people’s listening skills.

Good communication begins and ends with you, as you are the only one you can control. Regardless if you are speaking or listening you want to feel good about how you handled your end of things and most importantly that you kept to your values and goals in the conversation.

The truth is if you feel people frequently aren’t listening to you you can feel disrespected, misunderstood, frustrated, embarrassed and your self-esteem can even plummet.

If you find when you speak people drift away and don’t listen, and again this is more than one person — you see a pattern here, follow these communication guidelines and see if changing your speaking style is in order.

When you speak are you:

  • Brief
  • Positive
  • Specific
  • Honest
  • Authentic
  • Coming from a place of love

If your speaking style meets this criteria for the most part, trying to understand the other person’s lack of engagement can be another route to take. Arrogance, pride, defensiveness, boredom and not wanting to be wrong are just a few reasons people tune-out.

Listening is, in fact, hard work and many people don’t realize they aren’t good listeners. As the speaker, your job is to be sure you are communicating as clearly as possible and evaluate if there is a different/better way to get your point across.

Struggling with listening or being heard? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

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Meditation. Mindfulness. Money Do these 3 M’s Belong together?

Meditation. When I hear this word I think of people sitting immobile for hours at a time, dressed in white. Possibly in India or an ashram. They are not business people with busy family lives, but people with time on their hands and no kids.

What I don’t vision is a busy entrepreneur taking time out of their day to sit for hours on end to experience a Zen state.

Yet, studies show time and again the incredible benefits of achieving mindfulness, which can be done through meditation.

Meditation to grow your business

A study in the journal Psychological Science shows that mindfulness can help us conquer common “blind spots”, which can amplify or diminish our own flaws. Mindfulness can help us see beyond our distorted lenses to recognize the truth.

Another study in the journal Frontiers in Human Neuroscience shows that the benefits of meditation continue on throughout the day. According to the study, mindfulness meditation can help you focus and remain calm because it helps the brain have better control over processing pain and emotions.

What happens when we bring meditation, mindfulness and money together and work towards achieving a common goal?

Mindfulness is a state of being. Observing where you are and bringing your attention to being aware of yourself. Meditation is a common way of being mindful.

Taking even a few minutes each day to slow down your thoughts, stop thinking about the 15 things you need to do before noon, and become conscious of your self-talk can completely change the results in your business. Studies show practicing mindfulness can lead you to be more focused, less stressed, and have a greater ability to prioritize effectively.

The truth is you don’t need to spend hours at a time meditating to create change in your life. This week’s Fresh Tracks interview with May McCarthy teaches us a simple process to being mindful by setting aside a few minutes each morning.

More meditation = more money?

Do you think you might make more money if you were less stressed, more focused and calm, and had a better understanding of your emotions in the moment?

I know when I am mindful I make decisions faster and with more clarity. I am able to be more focused on achieving my goals and not get distracted as easily. All of which ultimately leads to my ability to serve more people and make more money.

Not sure what to do or how to meditate? Join me in a free guided meditation the first of each month and get a taste of what’s possible.

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Beyond Goal Setting: 3 Daily Habits for Building a Thriving Business

There is a reason why some business owners are more successful than others. It’s not because the successful one’s work harder or are smarter, but it’s where they focus their attention. It’s how they take control of their mind and ultimately their day right from the start. The truth is changing your results can happen without effort by changing a few steps in how you start your work day. And the best part is you can do it in less than five minutes.

Beyond setting goals, which are usually done once a year and are often soon forgotten, there are daily habits those that live and create with intention incorporate into their routine each morning. These habits make an incalculable difference in their results.

Let’s take a look at what you can do……

  1. Focus on yourself and mindset. Clear your head, take a few deep breathes, and slow your mind down. Take control, even if it’s just for a few minutes, of those run-away thoughts and the negative self-talk that can easily take control of your day.
  2. Intention for client care and client attraction. Taking care of your existing clients and focusing on attracting new clients should be a daily action. By taking just a few minutes to set an intention and focus on how you intend to serve and keep your existing clients can make or break your business. In addition, knowing that the right, new clients are on their way to you now allows you to set a tone of gratitude and prioritize what’s important to your business for the day.
  3. Focus on a healthy flow of money and circulation. In every business money should circulate. Similar to how blood circulates in your body and keeps you alive, money is what gives a business its life force. Set a focus that today and each day you will make money. You can certainly be specific about the amount you intend to bring in. The important part is to feel and set the tone for an abundant and profitable day.

You can do this in five minutes or less each morning before you begin your work day. To help with this, I am now doing a monthly business meditation for all subscribers. For free. I would love for you to join me! Register here to receive the link to access the meditation.

Want more? Kelly does an in-depth teaching on this topic in the Fresh Tracks with Kelly Robbins podcast.

Ready to create your Fresh Tracks? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

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Why ‘Just Be Yourself’ is Terrible Advice


Have you ever gotten the advice to “just be yourself”? It’s probably one of the most common bits of advice given, particularly when speaking with someone who is nervous about doing something new. And while ‘just be yourself’ sounds great, is it really good advice? Do we even know what being our self means in a moment that we’ve not experienced before?

This advice is often given when we are nervous and stepping outside of our comfort zone. The thing is when I am trying something new I don’t know who I am in that situation. I’m cutting Fresh Tracks. I’ve not grown into it yet to know who I am.

My experience is that the process of discovering who I am, particularly when doing something I haven’t done before, takes me jumping in, feeling my way around, and THEN becoming clear and confident about who I am. I don’t know who I am before experiencing this situation because I haven’t experienced it before. What if I am a mess – do I really want to just be myself in this situation?

A better piece of advice is to ‘be my best’. I may be a mess, but in my best moments I can pull myself together to give it my all.

An example I’ll share is when I started producing this newsletter 15 years ago. It was called The Small Business Buzz back then and the first several months it was terrible. It took time for me to discover my voice, narrow down what I had to say and why it was important, and share my message in a confident and powerful way.

I couldn’t be myself because I wasn’t sure who that was. I started writing and producing by taking action and doing the best I could based on what I knew to do. During the stumbling around process I discovered who I am as a writer and a publisher. I didn’t know ahead of time because I had no sense of self about it.

Letting go of who you aren’t to discover who you are

As a Fresh Tracker learning how to be yourself is part of the journey in creating Fresh Tracks. Creating those Fresh Tracks means living and being MORE of who you are right now. For most of us this is a process of uncovering who we aren’t in order to be more of who we are. Stepping into new and unknown territories is part of how we discover who we are in the first place.

Is there a difference between being myself, meaning who I am right now, and being who I choose to be? Perhaps who I choose to be is a stronger, more confidence person? Or I may try different ways of being me and see what is most comfortable and stick with that.

Don’t take the advice “just be yourself”. You can choose who you are in each moment and be authentic at the same time. Instead, I encourage you to “be your best self”.

Ready to create your Fresh Tracks? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

Finding Your Powerful Voice

Your Powerful Voice

What does it mean to ‘use your powerful voice’?

My first thought is which voice? My writing voice or my speaking voice? What does it means to have a voice as a writer? Who am I and what do I have to say? How is what I have to say any different than what anyone else has to say? Is how I speak different than how I write? Should it be?

In writing I believe there is a maturation in developing your voice and discovering who you are and what you stand for. How you view the world is different than how anyone else views it and learning to express yourself through writing can take time and experience.

Your voice is as unique as you are and stepping into your powerful voice is more a process of uncovering it rather than creating it.

Your voice is as much a part of you as your legs or your hair. It is a part of your soul yearning to break free and breathe. To be witnessed and heard. To expand into its maturity and express itself. When you find your writing voice the reader often feels your authority, power, honesty, authenticity. A connection is made.

And then we have our physical voice. As young children we first learn to speak and use our vocal cords and quickly learn the power we yield over the adults in our lives. We use our voice to get attention by crying, screaming, even whispering. We learn ‘inside voice vs outside voice’. We may learn to not use our voice to stay out of trouble. Some of us were taught to be seen and not heard. All of these things effect how we use our voice today – which is mostly unconscious until we start examining how effective our communication is.

An important thing to note…while speech is how you use words, voice is how you create sound. The use of your physical voice is completely different than your writing voice, yet can be just as powerful a way to make a connection.

I spoke with voice coach and co-founder of articulaterc, Hilary Blair, on the power of our voices and she tells us that we can use our voice as a wall to hide behind and not be seen – which leads us to not feeling heard. The frustration is that we may not know why we aren’t being heard. You can listen to the interview on the Fresh Tracks with Kelly Robbins show here.

As business owners, as Fresh Trackers, as adults in today’s world, using your voice is a powerful tool. We use our voice to close sales. To share ideas. To influence others and to change lives. We use our voice to stay in connection with others.

If you want to be heard and make a positive difference in your life and the lives of others you can’t just raise your voice. You have to share what you have to say in a powerful and impactful way. Discovering your powerful voice plays an important role on the journey creating Fresh Tracks.

Reach out for a free consultation if you’d like to discover how you can use your voice in a more powerful way now!