3 Steps to Stop Fear From Stopping You

It’s terrifying and is something we avoid experiencing at all costs. It can sneak up on us in the most unexpected ways, often paralyzing us mid-step. And yet, it’s a perfectly normal and natural occurrence we all have.

Fear. It’s part of the human experience. Some of us experience it more frequently than others and, the more we push ourselves to experience new things and to expand, the more likely we are to experience fear frequently.

Fear is both an instinct and an emotion. The chemical response, the adrenaline, is instinctual to everyone, while the emotion of fear is unique to each person. Different things will trigger fear in different people.

Let’s take a deeper look at fear and when we should pay attention to it and when we should keep going in spite of it.

Instinctual fear vs. Emotional fear

Fear pops up for two reasons and it’s your job to learn to differentiate between the two. There’s instinctual fear that protects you from being eaten by tigers and not killed by passing cars. This fear saves lives.  

And then there’s fear that appears when we are afraid because we are stepping beyond our comfort zone – creating Fresh Tracks. In this instance your body physically responds as if you are about to be eaten by a tiger, adrenaline courses through your body, your heart beats rapidly. Your instinct is to save yourself from danger, except it’s not from a tiger, it’s from yourself!

You are afraid because you are pushing past the edge of what you know to be safe. Examples of this may be asking for a promotion, raising your rates, or speaking in public.

In both instances your body is responding in the same way, however you don’t need to react the same way. So how do you discern the difference between the two?

  1. Be aware. Start by learning how you react when you are afraid. Get to know yourself. Do you shut down? Hide out in your house? Get quiet? Drink? Run away? Blame others?
  2. Practice recognizing the difference between the two types of fear. Having the consciousness to recognize your body is responding to something and your life is not on the line is the beginning.
  3. Recognize fear as it’s happening. Make a conscious decision to keep going in spite of fear.

In my podcast interview with Dr. Friedemann Schaub, he shares tips for how to recognize your fear and anxiety patterns and how they can impact your ability to cut Fresh Tracks.

The ability to differentiate between the two types of fear is mandatory to learning to trust yourself and to push past the invisible boundaries you keep hitting in your struggles. 

Part of the journey to creating Fresh Tracks, trusting yourself, and living a life of purpose is self-awareness. Take the time to learn about you. How is emotional fear thwarting your drive to cut Fresh Tracks?

Discover the Next Steps to Your Fresh Tracks in Kelly’s free video training here now. 

 

3 Steps to Trusting Your Decisions

Making decisions can be tough. Particularly when you are creating Fresh Tracks and stepping into new and uncharted territory. Why is making a decision so difficult when doing new things? Because you don’t have a history to support or justify your decision, particularly if it doesn’t turn out the way you choose.

In the first chapter of my book, Trust Your Next Step: Creating the Confidence to Cut Fresh Tracks we take a deep dive into making a true decision and what it entails. Part of what we review is your awareness, intention, decision, and action.

The truth is most of us are not taught how to make a true decision, and yet decision-making is such an important aspect of our life as humans. We are gifted with the ability to choose. It’s what sets us apart from everything else. And to top it off, according to Fresh Tracker Dr. Gary Klein on the Fresh Tracks podcast, what many of us were taught about how to make decisions is completely wrong! Most decision-making is done on a subconscious level and happens quickly. Not plotted out on a flow chart.

Making decisions on a conscious level and cultivating confidence and trust in yourself involves some self-reflection. How do you make decisions (quickly, intuitively, slowly, after months of research, you don’t unless you have to)? How often do you stick with the decisions you do make?

Here are a few factors that may be playing a role in your ability, or inability, to make a true decision.

Trust
Making a decision is also an exercise in how much you trust yourself. Decision-making is overloaded with beliefs and feelings that you may not be aware of at first glance. Not trusting yourself or your ability to make the right decision, but also trusting yourself that you will follow through and stick to your decision once you’ve made it are key motivators behind these beliefs. Next time you are in a position to make a decision, slow down and listen to your body. What’s it telling you? And how much of that do you agree with?

Fear
Fear frequently reigns its ugly head when it’s time to make a decision. Particularly when cutting Fresh Tracks! We may be afraid to lose something in making one choice over another. Or we are unwilling to give up the status quo – even if we say we want change, our decision-making doesn’t support that. Where is fear coming up for you in your decision-making?

Mindset
One last factor that dramatically effects your decisions is your belief about your ability to complete the task. Your mindset affects your decision-making. So, when confronted with making a different choice or when cutting Fresh Tracks and approaching something new, stop and examine your mindset. What are your beliefs about the matter? Why does it matter to your decision? Do you believe yourself and what you are committing to?

Trusting yourself when making decisions, taking action from a place of power, and stepping boldly into your path and purpose are all reasons to continue moving forward on your path cutting Fresh Tracks.

I thank you for being with me on this journey and I look forward to both of us continuing to cut Fresh Tracks!

Discover the Next Steps to Your Fresh Tracks in Kelly’s free video training here now. 

How to Think Like a Boss: The Two Principles You Must Master

Olympian Ester Ledecka knows firsthand the rewards of cutting Fresh Tracks, creating an astounding upset in winter sports history by doing her own thing her own way.

Winter sports enthusiasts know – skiers aren’t good at snowboarding. And snowboarders can’t ski if their life depended on it. The two sports are completely different. Both the mechanics of the sports and the culture of each are night and day. In fact, the ski industry is known for snubbing snowboarders and consider snowboarding more of a “performance” than a true sport.

Along comes Czech Ester Ledecka – who didn’t give a hoot about athletic norms as she became not only the first woman to compete in two sports in any winter Olympics, but she also won two gold medals; one in women’s super-G Alpine skiing and the parallel giant slalom in snowboarding.

This was a complete upset in the Alpine ski world. Why? Let’s take a look….

When Ester raced the super-G she was the 26th skier to come down the mountain – that’s how far behind she was in the ranking. The race had already been called – photos of the medalists had already been taken!

Ledecka skied the super-G for fun, just to see how well she could do because she could. She won by .01 seconds and was so caught off-guard by her gold medal that she hid during the interviews. She wore her googles to her press conference afterward because, in her words, “I was not prepared to be at this ceremony, and I don’t have any makeup.”

Let’s take a look at two things Ester did to bring herself to this record breaking place in the Olympic winter sports community…

 Mastering the Law of Thinking

Ester first skied at age two and tried snowboarding at age five (because her brother was doing it). As she grew she trained in both sports and actually had separate coaching staffs and schedules in order to develop both skillsets. Ester refused to listen to advice to specialize in one sport – which she had been told to do since she was eight.

Ester made up her own mind about what she wanted to do, did the work to make it happen, and focused on doing her best. She did not set her limits on what others told her was possible. In an interview after her win, Ester shares “I have been dreaming of this moment since I was a little child… A lot of people were telling me that it is not possible to do both sports and to be on a high level in both sports and today I proved that it is possible.”

Ester would later say that skiing the super-G as a boarder rather than a skier may have given her an advantage because of her mindset. “I was standing there as a snowboarder a little bit in my heart, and all the girls are just (Alpine) specialists and there was a lot of pressure on them,” Ledecka said, recalling her thoughts when was at the start gate. “I was just, `C’mon, just do the best run you can, skier.’”

When asked what she would do if she were pressured to choose one sport she replied she would choose a different coach instead.

 Mastering the Law of Success

Ledecka is a snowboarder by trade and has only competed in skiing for two years.

She had never placed higher than 29th and came into the Olympics ranked 43rd in the world cup standings. Ester was happy to be the first person to ever compete in both sports at the Winter Olympics as that was her goal. She started the winning race in the 26th spot, beating the first-place winner by .01 seconds.

“I was probably the only snowboarder on site,” she said. “All the other girls didn’t risk a lot. There must be a lot of pressure on them. I was just trying to do my best run.”

Ester is dedicated, disciplined and focused – which is why the Law of Success is the Universal Principle that led to her ultimate gold medal. The main worry her coaches have is that she never wants to get off the slope, which in Alpine skiing can be dangerous.

“She is absolutely focused,” says her skiing coach Thomas Bank.

Her coaches say that because Ester both skied and boarded she was able to see the mountain differently when Alpine skiing. She was able to act more like an artist and create her own path rather than focusing on technique and best practices others have mastered.

The question to ask yourself is…

  1. Where are you “staying in the lines”.
  2. Where are you doing what’s expected of you rather than what you desire?
  3. Do you have the support system in place to support your decision?
  4. Are you expecting to succeed?

Overview

Belief

In herself. Didn’t listen to or follow advice from experts to specialize in one sport.

Universal Laws in Play

Law of Success – Every one of us is designed to succeed because the Universe is conspiring in your favor. Always.

Law of Thinking – Your dominant thoughts are what you manifest

Results

1st woman to compete in two Winter Olympic Sports. Two gold medals.

 

Is Your Mindset Conducive to a Life of Passion and Money?

Passion is one of those intangible things that we all know when we feel it, yet isn’t always easy to describe. It’s not easy to teach someone how to be or become passionate. Becoming passionate is an individual journey and it comes more naturally to some than others.

It feels great to be around passionate people. We are drawn to them, they are magnetic! The energy is simply contagious and who doesn’t want to feel excitement and enthusiasm like someone who is passionate about who they are and what they do?

And that is why bringing passion to everything you do, especially your work and your marketing, energizes and motivates others. People are starving for that energy and will want to work with you, even if they can’t describe why. Passion is defined as a strong feeling of enthusiasm or excitement for something or about doing something.

And yet so many of us struggle to obtain and keep our passion.

Passion is something we develop, not necessarily something we are born with. We have to find it for ourselves and the truth is, we don’t usually start off as experts at whatever it is. We get better because we keep at it. We make it fun.

Want to live a life of passion?

Stop waiting around for it to fall in your lap! Passion is cultivated and nurtured. Our guest on this week’s Fresh Tracks podcast, Carey Smolensky, helps folks find and achieve a life of passion. He shares his lifelong journey – which began as early as High School – and how it has manifested into the several businesses he owns today.

Passion begins with a mindset.

Your outlook on life can be one of boredom and not seeing opportunities around you, or fun and adventure around every corner. Do you spend your days doing things you love? Surrounded by people you love? If not, you need to make changes immediately.

Here are a few tips for gaining more passion in your life:

  • Don’t assume that your passion should be your job.
  • Don’t procrastinate on something you are passionate about because it doesn’t pay financially.
  • Make decisions based on what will allow you to live your life more passionately.
  • Be excited about your life and each day.
  • Surround yourself with passionate people. Let go of those nay-sayers that drag you down!

As a business owner and marketer, it’s especially important you bring your passion to what you do because the feeling of it, the energy of it, shines through to your clients and prospects. It can’t not. And it is often times the key ingredient to success (in addition to a rocking marketing funnel!). Your passion and energy are contagious.

How You Handle Yourself While Waiting Says a Lot About Your Ability to Stay Present

Waiting tends to suck. No one wants to do it and yet, we all end up waiting at one time or another.

There’s two types of waiting; anticipated and unanticipated.

Anticipated waiting, such as waiting for the results of a test or waiting for your book to be released from the publisher (ehm – especially if it’s WAAY longer than you expected it to be), we can plan for. While we may be impatient for the results, we also know it’s coming and can plan for it. We may plan to keep ourselves busy and keep our mind off the waiting. Or we may focus on staying positive or preparing ourselves for a poor outcome.

The second type of waiting is when you are waiting unexpectedly, such as waiting in line at the DMV or the grocery store. Waiting in traffic or for a delayed flight. Unanticipated waiting catches us off guard and often leaves us feeling out of control, frustrated or angry. Our plans are thwarted and can throw off other deadlines.

As business owners we are accustomed to being in control of many things. When we are forced to wait, particularly unexpectedly, we are definitely not in control, and that can be incredibly uncomfortable!

When we are waiting and feeling out of control we often go to two places:

  1. Victimhood – “Why am I always in the slow lane”?  “This happens to me every time I’m in a hurry”.
  2. Frustration and blame – This has more of an angry tone to it. “This is why I never get my goals accomplished”. “Those kids are always slowing me down”.

I think we can all agree, neither of these places is healthy or helping us (or the people around us) in any way. Let’s take a look at how we can wait and choose how we respond.

Tips for handling waiting more consciously

  1. Breathe. Taking a few breaths may slow you down and allow you to get ahold of yourself momentarily. You can also take this time to do some focused, meditative breathing that you always intend to do but never make the time for.
  2. Be productive. Update your to-do list or your shopping list. Delete some of those emails that are nine months old. Have you not made time to call your mom in a while? This is it!
  3. Practice being mindful and staying in the present. Do a short meditation or a focused prayer or intention setting. Be aware of what’s going on around you – how can you make the most of the situation? Can you be of service in any way?
  4. Let go. Sometimes the best way to get unstuck is to not focus on the issue, in this instance waiting, and move on to something else. Oftentimes this letting go process is what breaks you free. Accept the situation you are in and do something else.

How you react to situations, particularly the unexpected or uncomfortable, is your choice. Being conscious of how you react to waiting is just one place to focus your attention this week.

Are you ready to be more present in each moment? Perhaps our free Success in Business Meditation is right for you. Click here for immediate access!

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What Bold Action Are You Avoiding on Your Path to Creating Fresh Tracks?

There’s no denying it, if you keep doing the same thing you will keep getting the same results. The bigger your goal the bigger and bolder the actions you will need to take to accomplish it. Yet many of us stay stuck, busy, even unhappy because we are afraid of the risk involved in taking a bold step.

What does it mean to be bold? It means showing an ability to take risks. Being confident and courageous in your actions. Requiring yourself to be courageous and daring. It means being will to accomplish something despite the risks.

People who choose to be bold are inspiring not just because they get big things accomplished, but because they also instigate growth, progress, and movement for themselves and others around them, says Inc. magazine columnist and best-selling author Kevin Daum. It takes boldness to create Fresh Tracks.

The question quickly becomes what is a bold action for you?

Singing out loud in public? Showing your picture on your website? Having a voice and speaking up for yourself or sharing your opinion? Making a sales call? Asking for money? Quitting your job and risking security?

Here’s the thing. What’s bold for me is probably different than what’s bold for you. However, the way you feel after you make a bold move, after you push yourself and do something risky, that feeling is universal. Taking a bold action creates a powerful sense of strength inside of you. THAT feeling of empowerment and confidence is available to each of us. What’s required is taking the bold action.

In our Fresh Tracks with Kelly Robbins interview with Bold Betties founder Niki Koubourlis, Niki shares that tackling an outdoor adventure can be the catalyst for knowing that you are capable of way more than you previously thought. Conquering an outdoor adventure can give you the confidence to create a change in a different part of your life.

One bold move can be the catalyst to creating your Fresh Tracks.

The change that happens is not necessarily in the act itself, but it’s inside you. When you take a big, bold action there are feelings that go along with that! Fear is usually one of them.

After that comes the realization that you DID IT. There is confidence, pride, courage and much more. You become a different person. Who you are ‘being’ changes because you realize you can ‘be’ more. Be different than you were.

Your job is to capture the powerful feelings associated with the power in yourself, the “I did it!!!” feelings, and bring that confidence and the vibration of those feelings to the other areas of your life you are focusing on.

If you want to create Fresh Tracks you need to be bold. If you are too afraid to take the next step in your journey, take a bold step in another area. Perhaps an outdoor adventure. Or reading at a poetry slam. It shakes up your stuck, fearful energy and just may be the catalyst to the next tracks on your journey.

What is the next bold move you can take today?

Are you ready to make a bold move? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

 

 

Are You Even in the Game?

One of the things that stood out for me from my interview with NYT best-selling author Jen Sincero was a statement she made about being in the game. You want to make money. Perhaps you also want freedom, flexibility, to enjoy what you do and to feel like you are contributing to society.

In order to create any of that you’ve got to be swinging the bat and trying, at a minimum, to play the game. You have got to be playing in order to have even a slight chance of winning!! There are different levels to playing, but being in the game means you are doing more than ‘thinking about’ how you’d like to double your income and have a house on the beach. It means you are actively doing something to make it happen.

How are you playing the game is the next question to pose to yourself

There’s being in the game to win and there’s being in the game to not lose. And there’s sticking your toe in the water so you can say you are in the game but you aren’t really playing at all. You may not know your exact path to wealth right now, but taking action is how you figure it out. Taking big, focused action is how you play.

I was recently speaking with someone about his new business (over a few months) and he keeps putting off starting it because he didn’t know all the answers. He didn’t have everything figured out and was waiting to start until he did. He was taking weeks to do vision boards and attending networking groups in the hopes of knowing exactly who his clients would be and what they would want from him. And THEN he was going start reaching out and selling.

This idea of having it all figured out before you start quickly leads to broke and a business that never has a chance of making money because it never gets started. You aren’t helping anyone by thinking and planning and not taking action. You aren’t helping yourself by playing it safe.

Showing up vs actually playing

Other folks THINK they are in the game because they have a website and may network here and there, but they aren’t truly playing. They play in the realm of their comfort zone, which may be spending hours a day posting on social media or attending a networking event here and there. There is not much sales or business conversation happening. They show up and talk the talk, but they aren’t walking the walk. Results speak for themselves.

Like Jen said in our Fresh Tracks interview, there’s this place where you just have to get in the game and get started if you want to accomplish anything. Most of it you’ll figure out as you go along. If you aren’t even playing the game you can’t expect to win.

Are you playing the game or barely showing up? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

 

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Is Your Fuel Clean? The Importance of Caring for Yourself First

You must take care of yourself first. We’ve all heard that statement before and can intellectually agree with the logic behind it. Yet, many of us still struggle to take care of ourselves. We are disciplined in many areas in life and business and still struggle with this one.

If you’ve ever paid attention to the pre-flight training from the airlines before take-off, you’ve heard the instructions in case of emergency to put the oxygen mask on yourself first – even before your kids. You can’t take care of anyone if you are passed out!

This same truth holds true for you as a business owner. You are literally the energy and force that fuels your business — no one else is. No one else can power it for you. If you run out of fuel or are full of contaminated fuel your business will suffer. You will work harder than needed. You will struggle to make decisions. You will doubt yourself. The worry or fear you experience will enter your business and permeate its essence. Contaminating decisions, products and interactions with others. And ultimately you are not the only one that suffers. So do all of your clients, vendors, suppliers, creditors, employees and stakeholders.

The clearer your mind and the healthier your spirit, the more able you are to serve the world in the biggest most powerful way possible. For many of us that is through our business.

Think about what that means to you and where in your life you are not taking care of yourself. Where is water leaking into your gas tank? What are one or two small things you can do to change that today?

In my monthly Success in Business Meditation we learn to begin our meditation by focusing on ourselves. I teach you a simple way to do this in just 10 minutes. THEN we are in a clean and focused place to move on to what we are creating with our business. We have the capacity to expand and give in a powerful and compelling way.

Mindfulness and meditation are just one of several ways you can ‘keep your gas tank clean’.

How Do You Handle Endings?

Examining the role endings have in your new beginnings

According to William Bridges, author of Transitions: Making Sense of Life’s Changes, each change or transition has three stages. They are Endings, the Neutral Zone and New Beginnings.

I am focusing on endings this week because they set the course for the next two. Why are endings so important? Unresolved endings impede our movement into the neutral zone, which is a necessary part of the transition process.

Are you struggling creating something new? It might because of how you ended what preceded it.

Take a look at how you’ve ended major events in your life. Marriages, relationships, businesses, trainings, and other commitments.

Objectively reviewing how you have (or have not) acknowledged the endings in your life can be an enlightening experience. Understanding how you’ve handled transitions in the past will ultimately allow you to be conscious during your current or next transition, giving you the opportunity to choose how you react.

Take some time now to reflect on changes you’ve experienced in your life. Are there any patterns you see? Let’s specifically take a look at how you handle your endings, as they affect how your beginnings start.

Change always requires you to let go of something before the new thing can start. This is the Law of Sacrifice. For example, you must end your job to step into retirement. You must end an unhealthy relationship before stepping into a healthy one. You must end making poor health choices and eating on the couch all night to enjoy a healthy and fit lifestyle.

Do you fight and resist endings? Do you acknowledge them and accept them? Do you avoid them or pretend they are not happening? Do you embrace them and welcome them? Are you usually not aware you are in an ending? Do you just want to hurry up and end so you can start your new thing?

It’s not that these experiences aren’t meant to end, but it’s how you handle them that is worth reflecting on. Remember, a caterpillar’s life must end before it cocoons and reemerges as a butterfly. The caterpillar doesn’t fight the metamorphosis, it eats and eats (preparation) to sustain itself through the transition.

The phoenix is another symbolic example of change. When the Phoenix perceives its impending death it ignites itself into a magnificent fire. In time, it reemerges from its own ashes – reborn, renewed, and very much alive.

How do you handle endings? Are you in one now and if so, what can you do to embrace the ending rather than fight or avoid it? How can you honor the ending as a part of your metamorphosis into the new?

Struggling with an ending or beginning? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

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What to do When People Don’t Listen to You

There is nothing ruder and more frustrating than speaking to someone and they clearly aren’t listening to you. While the fact that they aren’t listening says more about them you, if you notice a pattern of people not listening when you speak it may be worthwhile to check-in to your own speaking habits.

According to an article in PR Daily, less than two percent of all people have had formal education on how to listen. Odds are there are a Lot of people not truly listening! But you can’t do much about other people’s listening skills.

Good communication begins and ends with you, as you are the only one you can control. Regardless if you are speaking or listening you want to feel good about how you handled your end of things and most importantly that you kept to your values and goals in the conversation.

The truth is if you feel people frequently aren’t listening to you you can feel disrespected, misunderstood, frustrated, embarrassed and your self-esteem can even plummet.

If you find when you speak people drift away and don’t listen, and again this is more than one person — you see a pattern here, follow these communication guidelines and see if changing your speaking style is in order.

When you speak are you:

  • Brief
  • Positive
  • Specific
  • Honest
  • Authentic
  • Coming from a place of love

If your speaking style meets this criteria for the most part, trying to understand the other person’s lack of engagement can be another route to take. Arrogance, pride, defensiveness, boredom and not wanting to be wrong are just a few reasons people tune-out.

Listening is, in fact, hard work and many people don’t realize they aren’t good listeners. As the speaker, your job is to be sure you are communicating as clearly as possible and evaluate if there is a different/better way to get your point across.

Struggling with listening or being heard? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

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