Category Archives: Purpose

Why ‘Just Be Yourself’ is Terrible Advice


Have you ever gotten the advice to “just be yourself”? It’s probably one of the most common bits of advice given, particularly when speaking with someone who is nervous about doing something new. And while ‘just be yourself’ sounds great, is it really good advice? Do we even know what being our self means in a moment that we’ve not experienced before?

This advice is often given when we are nervous and stepping outside of our comfort zone. The thing is when I am trying something new I don’t know who I am in that situation. I’m cutting Fresh Tracks. I’ve not grown into it yet to know who I am.

My experience is that the process of discovering who I am, particularly when doing something I haven’t done before, takes me jumping in, feeling my way around, and THEN becoming clear and confident about who I am. I don’t know who I am before experiencing this situation because I haven’t experienced it before. What if I am a mess – do I really want to just be myself in this situation?

A better piece of advice is to ‘be my best’. I may be a mess, but in my best moments I can pull myself together to give it my all.

An example I’ll share is when I started producing this newsletter 15 years ago. It was called The Small Business Buzz back then and the first several months it was terrible. It took time for me to discover my voice, narrow down what I had to say and why it was important, and share my message in a confident and powerful way.

I couldn’t be myself because I wasn’t sure who that was. I started writing and producing by taking action and doing the best I could based on what I knew to do. During the stumbling around process I discovered who I am as a writer and a publisher. I didn’t know ahead of time because I had no sense of self about it.

Letting go of who you aren’t to discover who you are

As a Fresh Tracker learning how to be yourself is part of the journey in creating Fresh Tracks. Creating those Fresh Tracks means living and being MORE of who you are right now. For most of us this is a process of uncovering who we aren’t in order to be more of who we are. Stepping into new and unknown territories is part of how we discover who we are in the first place.

Is there a difference between being myself, meaning who I am right now, and being who I choose to be? Perhaps who I choose to be is a stronger, more confidence person? Or I may try different ways of being me and see what is most comfortable and stick with that.

Don’t take the advice “just be yourself”. You can choose who you are in each moment and be authentic at the same time. Instead, I encourage you to “be your best self”.

Ready to create your Fresh Tracks? Reach out for a complimentary consultation with Kelly now!

Manifesto: The State of the Living Numb

The situation in the world is somber and I am here to address it head-on. And I am humbly asking you to do the same.

Millions upon millions of people, people just like us, are going through their lives in a numb state. They are going through life deprived of feeling or responsiveness. Going through the motions of their daily lives, doing all the right things but still feeling empty inside.

The fact is their life force, their energy, is blocked.

To combat this issue, I have put together a 10 page, free ‘State of the Living Numb Manifesto’ and a numb life self-assessment just for you.  I encourage you to download this crucial and informative manifesto right now. And then, there are 3 things you can do to save yourself from the numbness:numblife

  1. Take the Numb Life Self-Assessment, which is included for free in the manifesto.
  2. Learn about what’s really going on in the world today, why it’s happening, and take the steps to ensure it’s not happening to you too!
  3. If you do find yourself among the living numb, follow the step-by-step process included in the manifesto to break through the numbness and become ALIVE again.

Have you ever fallen asleep on your arm and it gets tingly and goes numb but you don’t realize you are in a bad position until it’s too late? This same thing is happening to many of us in our lives.

Just like you can move your arm and shake the numbness off, your life numbness works the same way. However, you have to get out of that bad position and start moving to get your life back.

You can start right now by taking action and Check out the State of the Living Numb Manifesto: How it’s unknowingly sabotaging our very existence today and the included self-assessment.

There are no strings attached.

Feel free to share this powerful information with others.

www.KellyRobbins.net/numblife

Save

Save

The Universe Doesn’t Need a Contingency Plan

The Universe Doesn’t Need a Contingency Plan
And neither should you

It seems like the smart thing to do, to have a back-up plan. Juuuussst in case.

A contingency plan, or a plan B, is, in reality, holding you back. It’s you planning not to succeed. It’s giving yourself an out.

Plan BThe fact is when you make a decision, a decision with a true commitment, you close ALL the doors except the one you are choosing. There is NO plan B.

When you do have a contingency plan you hold back just a little bit. It might be so subtle no one but you knows about it, yet, that slight holding back, that prepared plan B you have in your thoughts, prevents you from going all out for your goals 100 percent.

We all make decisions every day. Some are bigger and have more effect in our life than others. We don’t make a right or wrong decision. We make a decision and then make it the right decision.

You make your decision the right one. It’s a commitment and an attitude.

I just interviewed J V Crum III, author of ‘Conscious Millionaire: Grow Your Business by Making a Difference’, who made his first million by the age of 25. He came from a poor, rural family and still managed to accomplish this huge feat. How did he accomplish this goal by such a young age?

He made the decision. And get this – he decided when he was 5 years old! He tells his story during our interview on the Fresh Tracks podcast, which I recommend you listen to – it’s amazing the power of a 5-year-old boy’s determination to always have money for a candy bar.

Your word is law and sets everything you ask for into motion

Your word is law and you must speak it with the full force and energy of the universe behind it. Your goal is to train yourself to know without a shadow of a doubt that what you declare is true and to believe that when you do make a decision or a statement, what you say happens. Because your word IS law.

However, you are not putting the full force of the universal energy behind your decisions if you have a contingency plan. That is not your word in action. That is “I will give this a try, yet, if I change my mind, if it’s too hard, if I get bored or something new and exciting comes along, I can always opt out. I’ll have this plan in place for that option.”

That attitude is not tapping into the creative force of the universe. You appear to make a decision for your greater good, but really you are just dipping your toe in the water.

If you have made contingency plans in your business the energy of that is going to come across in your marketing and in your sales results. It doesn’t matter how hard you try, or how hard you work, that energy of ‘I’m heading for plan B if this doesn’t work out’ is always going to be there.

How might a plan B look?

  • I’ll try this for six months. Then I’ll go get a job if I don’t make it.
  • I’ll pay for this a little bit at a time – even though I can pay in full. This way if I change my mind I’m not out the money.
  • Only doing the parts of a training course you like
  • I’ll keep working until I have my income replaced
  • I’m going to stay married (in unhealthy relationship) until the right person comes along.

Your homework – eliminate all your contingency plans. Put yourself into creating your Fresh Tracks full force. Your success, and your knowledge that you CAN create whatever you set your mind to, depends on it.