What Happens When You Avoid Your Higher Calling?

Working with The Laws of Sacrifice and Non Resistance

Do you have a higher calling but keep avoiding it? I bet you can share many reasons why you haven’t stepped into your higher calling yet. For example…..

It’s illogical. It’s way above your skill level. It’s risky. You are comfortable right where you are at. It’s too big. You aren’t ready.

Let’s take a look at how Fresh Tracker Lisa stepped past her Edge and into her higher calling of running for House of Representatives.

Situation Overview
Lisa’s Fresh Tracks journey involved letting go of long-time, comfortable relationships, not resisting going where she was being led, and taking time to listen to honor her inner voice.

Lisa’s business had come to a slow yet definite stop. An empty nester, her three kids had launched and for the first time in her life she had time to focus exclusively on herself. Her daughter was newly married and her twin boys had graduated college and were on their own. Although her business was slow and her life was busy, at this major turning point in her life she felt change was afoot and took some time to focus on herself and how to get her 20 year public relations business back on track.

Consequences of Ignoring the Longing
In spite of the outer turmoil she was experiencing, Lisa began to focus her attention on something she always knew in her heart she would do – run for office. Yet the thought of doing it all just made her head spin and she sat on her desire by keeping busy and focusing on everyone else. Because she wasn’t growing, she began to shrink. The shrinking was reflected in her business results and her stress level.

Lisa had always longed to run for political office. An active member of both the community she lives in and the public relations community she works in, Lisa didn’t see how she could make the time or space to run for a political office. She needed to get her business back into profitability and make a living before stepping into such lofty ideals!

Lisa shares that the transition was hard. She resisted letting go of large parts of her life that she loved so much. Her turmoil in how to move forward running for office while getting her weakened business in the black resulted in her keeping one foot in her old world and sticking one toe in the new.

Working with the Law
In order to make time for a campaign Lisa realized she needed to let some things go. The first were her close ties to the public relations community. Scaling back on networking events and leadership seemed counter intuitive since she was striving to gain more clients not less. She had many long-time, supportive friends there that had been a point of joy for decades. Her first reaction was to work more because her business was slow, which is the opposite of scaling back on networking.

The Law of Sacrifice states that to have something of greater value in your life you must be willing to give up something of lesser value. In this instance it was community.

The other Law in play here is the Law of Non-Resistance, which states that whatever you resist, persists. Lisa was resisting pursuing her higher calling because of what she perceived to be more pressing needs.

Results
Lisa tells me that once she really let go things immediately started falling into place. First of all, in spite of cutting back on her PR community, her business picked back up – and she hired several contractors to do much of the work, giving her time to focus on campaigning.

While Lisa does spend much less time attending many of the networking and social events she attended for decades, yet she doesn’t feel like she’s completely lost the friends or the connections she was so fearful of losing. She shares that she has, in fact, gained new friends with similar passions as she runs for office. Letting go of her old community freed up the space to create a new community that is in alignment with her higher calling of being elected to the House of Representatives.

Overview

Belief – Scarcity of time. Resisting following intuition because of “logic”.

Practices leading to change – Let go of old relationships. Changed focus on use of time.

Universal Law in play – Law of Sacrifice. Law of Non Resistance

Why Your Hidden Beliefs, Values and Attitudes are Keeping You Numb

Everything you are experiencing in life can be attributed to how you think. How you think is based on your attitudes, values and ultimately your beliefs.

Notice I am saying ‘how’ you think and not ‘what’ you think – there is a difference. Most of us aren’t conscious of our true beliefs and go through life striving for something and yet receive something completely different – and we are completely bewildered why.

Current Beliefs

We accepted many of our current beliefs and values as true when we were young and they haven’t changed. At the time they seemed like appropriate responses, however, they are often no longer appropriate.

These beliefs remain active in your life even though you are not aware of them and unconsciously the actions and decisions you make are based on beliefs that no longer hold true for you.

What we do focus on and talk about frequently in our society is attitude. We hear a lot about attitudes. Having a positive attitude. Changing our attitude. Improving our attitude. Not having a bad attitude.

corebeliefs_headerThe thing is our attitudes stem from our values and beliefs. If we aren’t aware of what we value in life or what our beliefs are we are functioning from an unconscious place. In fact, we are often acting in a way that is the exact opposite of what we say we want!

If you aren’t aware of your beliefs, especially ones formed as a child, life gets frustrating quickly! This presents as you trying and trying to accomplish a goal or create a certain lifestyle or make more money in your business and you just cannot get there no matter what you do.

What happens is you end up staying stuck and ultimately living a numb life. Spinning your wheels, regurgitating the same thoughts and unable to permanently change unsupportive attitudes that are sabotaging your growth.

It’s important that you become aware of the beliefs and values your attitude and behaviors are based off of.

How do you do this?

An exercise you can do at home is to start becoming aware of your personal beliefs in different areas of your life. You can start with answering these questions; Life is… Wealth is…. Happiness is…Play is…. Work is….  Answer each with as many responses as you can. Shoot for ten each.

Then look at where the personal belief came from. There are three possible choices:

  1. You accepted, without conscious choice, the values held by others which may include family, peers, parents, religious training, socioeconomic custom, etc.
  2. Conscious choice by you after you considered it.
  3. Absorbed by your consciousness from the collective unconsciousness of society as a whole.

Using critical thinking skills and picking apart, one by one, our true beliefs and values are we un-numb ourselves and create Fresh Tracks in our life and business!

Check out our Free Training on Breaking the Bondage of the Numb Life here.

 

Beware the Research Trap

Changing careers. Increasing income. Improving relationships. Living on purpose.

Taking any of these major course changes on starts with doing something different. We’ve all heard the saying ‘look before you leap’ and as adults that often means go do research before you do anything!

I am a big researcher and often joke that Google is my best friend. I can easily get stuck in analyzer mode, comparing my options and embracing my need to learn everything I can about a topic before I write a single word or take even the smallest action.

And that is just for small stuff!

trapped doing researchIn my business I speak with many people who are stuck in different places, research mode comes up particularly often in sales conversations. The person I am speaking with is often comparing and contrasting different courses of action, different ways to make money, if coaching itself is the right thing.

Yet many of these people never buy from me or anyone else. Because they never buy they also never create lasting change in their lives or career.

There are always more options, more opportunities to explore. And stepping into major life change is never a sure thing, so it’s important to not jump in blindly. I get that.

I make follow-up calls often times years later (the fortune is in the follow-up) and many folks are still thinking about making a change. They are going to try one more free training or take on one more miserable client project and then make the decision….always hoping for different results.

What I hear is they are stuck thinking and researching and not getting anywhere with their life.

I was telling a respected friend about a new client of mine. He asked me how long I spoke with her before she agreed to work with me (which was less than 30 minutes) and then asked me how often my successful clients made quick decisions like that. The truth is most of my successful clients make decisions quickly.

Most successful business leaders I know make a decision quickly, decisively, and then stick with it to make it the right decision. They are clear on what they want and open to see and receive the opportunity when it presents itself.

Why do we get stuck researching?

Because we don’t trust ourselves to take the next step.

We want to make ‘the best’ decision and we let fear, perfectionism, and insecurity stop us in our tracks. The research trap is sneaky because we feel like we are being smart and we are working towards our goals, but in reality we are spinning our wheels in one spot.

How do you break through the research trap?

One effective solution is setting timers for yourself. This can vary depending on what you are researching. You can set 15 minutes for researching an article topic to a few days or weeks if making a big decision. Set your deadline, do your research, and if you still aren’t sure what next step to take let it go for now. It’s amazing how letting go can bring the answer quickly and often organically.

It’s then your job to be open to seeing/receiving it, and stepping into it.

Amazingly, sometimes that’s when I’ve been known to make a follow-up call.

Are you ready to become more aware of your life’s possibilities? I encourage you to step into the Your Dream Life free training and learn the 7 steps to creating Your Dream Life now!

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The Universe Doesn’t Need a Contingency Plan

The Universe Doesn’t Need a Contingency Plan
And neither should you

It seems like the smart thing to do, to have a back-up plan. Juuuussst in case.

A contingency plan, or a plan B, is, in reality, holding you back. It’s you planning not to succeed. It’s giving yourself an out.

Plan BThe fact is when you make a decision, a decision with a true commitment, you close ALL the doors except the one you are choosing. There is NO plan B.

When you do have a contingency plan you hold back just a little bit. It might be so subtle no one but you knows about it, yet, that slight holding back, that prepared plan B you have in your thoughts, prevents you from going all out for your goals 100 percent.

We all make decisions every day. Some are bigger and have more effect in our life than others. We don’t make a right or wrong decision. We make a decision and then make it the right decision.

You make your decision the right one. It’s a commitment and an attitude.

I just interviewed J V Crum III, author of ‘Conscious Millionaire: Grow Your Business by Making a Difference’, who made his first million by the age of 25. He came from a poor, rural family and still managed to accomplish this huge feat. How did he accomplish this goal by such a young age?

He made the decision. And get this – he decided when he was 5 years old! He tells his story during our interview on the Fresh Tracks podcast, which I recommend you listen to – it’s amazing the power of a 5-year-old boy’s determination to always have money for a candy bar.

Your word is law and sets everything you ask for into motion

Your word is law and you must speak it with the full force and energy of the universe behind it. Your goal is to train yourself to know without a shadow of a doubt that what you declare is true and to believe that when you do make a decision or a statement, what you say happens. Because your word IS law.

However, you are not putting the full force of the universal energy behind your decisions if you have a contingency plan. That is not your word in action. That is “I will give this a try, yet, if I change my mind, if it’s too hard, if I get bored or something new and exciting comes along, I can always opt out. I’ll have this plan in place for that option.”

That attitude is not tapping into the creative force of the universe. You appear to make a decision for your greater good, but really you are just dipping your toe in the water.

If you have made contingency plans in your business the energy of that is going to come across in your marketing and in your sales results. It doesn’t matter how hard you try, or how hard you work, that energy of ‘I’m heading for plan B if this doesn’t work out’ is always going to be there.

How might a plan B look?

  • I’ll try this for six months. Then I’ll go get a job if I don’t make it.
  • I’ll pay for this a little bit at a time – even though I can pay in full. This way if I change my mind I’m not out the money.
  • Only doing the parts of a training course you like
  • I’ll keep working until I have my income replaced
  • I’m going to stay married (in unhealthy relationship) until the right person comes along.

Your homework – eliminate all your contingency plans. Put yourself into creating your Fresh Tracks full force. Your success, and your knowledge that you CAN create whatever you set your mind to, depends on it.

Are Your Relationships Unconsciously Affecting Your Business?

Most of us spend thousands of hours working on ourselves and striving for more. We have a vision and are going all out for it! We invest in our personal growth and development. We hire coaches. We may even do yoga or change our diet or exercise to put ourselves in a different space. We read books and attend training’s in order to discover what our next steps are to achieving happiness and success.

We strive to hone our skills and strengthen our energy, and yet it doesn’t stick. We continue to struggle to achieve our goals, which seem to be right there and then we lose it! The goals we KNOW are in alignment with our purpose and passion and that are rightfully ours are always a step or two away.

One often overlooked area that negates all the work we do is the people we surround ourselves with.

relationship picWhen you think about your relationships what might first come to mind is your partner, children and immediate family. And there is absolutely no doubt these people play an integral role in where you are today. Books have been written on the subject and the self-healing involved in examining these relationships is something I believe all of us should examine on the roadway to conscious living. They are in our lives from a young age for a reason!

However, beyond that, in order to maintain the higher energy of the work we do – to set a goal, achieve it, and keep it so we embody that new space of being – we need to take a look at ALL of our relationships and make conscious choices about who we let into our space.

Your friends are a great example. It can be wonderful having lifelong friends, friends that you’ve known since childhood. There is a familiarity, a security and a comfort in spending time with them. But odds are the Kelly that met them 20 years ago is not the same Kelly that you are today – particularly if you are consciously involved in personal growth and development.

I encourage you to take time now to evaluate if these friends know you as you were, or as you are now. How do you feel after you spend time with them?

The next place to take a look is your business friends – you have some, right? This is specifically a different role than your personal friends. Your business friends should be consciously hand-chosen and ideally be in a place you want to go. Pay attention to your conversations and how they view business and life.

Do you find yourself chatting it up with your business friends and it’s the same conversation you’ve always had? Do you find you are spending your time giving advice rather than getting it?

Your business friends should stretch you. What were the last 3 books or resources recommended to you? If you find you’ve outgrown or become stagnant with your business friends it’s time to consciously up-level.

Protecting and controlling your energy is vital to your growth and success – and yes, that means guarding who you allow to enter your space.

It’s not always easy, but as you grow it’s normal and healthy that the people you surround yourself with change too.

It’s up to you to make conscious choices on who you permit in your space and to go out with intention and find ones that push you to grow.

Listen to the Fresh Tracks with Kelly Robbins podcast and get more in-depth training on how relationships are affecting you here.

 

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