Forget Not Playing Small. Are You Living Large?

In today’s world I find we talk more about “not playing small” than we do about “living large”. I don’t believe that serves us because the two are, in fact, incredibly different things. The wording even feels different – say each out loud and see for yourself. They are different vibrations and have different meanings and intentions.

The lens you look at your life through to “not be small” is different than the lens you look through to ‘live large”. I encourage each of us to feel into and create what we DO want, not focus on avoiding what we don’t want. Why? Because thoughts are things!

Less debt or more wealth?

Playing small vs living large is similar to focusing on creating abundance rather than getting out of debt. The two are different and require different approaches. When you have a goal of getting out of debt you are focusing on what you don’t want, debt. What you put your attention on expands. So, we want to focus our attention on creating abundance. That’s what we want more of. The same holds true for living a large life vs a small life. 

This week we are exploring what it means to live large.

As our Fresh Tracks podcast guest Elizabeth Crook shares, the more we live large the happier and healthier we will be. Living in a way that aligns our purpose, our values, what energizes us, our talents and synchronizes that with the impact we want to have on our families, our businesses and the world allows us to live a large life.

Marianne Williamson has a famous quote “Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.” I love this statement because it rings true! 

The question then becomes; at what moment do I make a decision to play small rather than live large? 

Here are a few questions to ask yourself and see:

  1. Are you living your life for yourself or other people? Are you allowing others to dictate your choices and actions?
  2. If you died today, would you die fulfilled? Have you lived your life to the fullest? Do you give each day your fullest?
  3. Do you live with intention and purpose? When was the last time you did something that scared you? That you pushed yourself.
  4. Where is your personality or sense of self out of balance? 

Take some time and think about, perhaps journal, what it means to YOU to live large. What can you do today to do more of that? 

Discover the Next Steps to Your Fresh Tracks in Kelly’s free video training here now. 

3 Steps to Trusting Your Decisions

Making decisions can be tough. Particularly when you are creating Fresh Tracks and stepping into new and uncharted territory. Why is making a decision so difficult when doing new things? Because you don’t have a history to support or justify your decision, particularly if it doesn’t turn out the way you choose.

In the first chapter of my book, Trust Your Next Step: Creating the Confidence to Cut Fresh Tracks we take a deep dive into making a true decision and what it entails. Part of what we review is your awareness, intention, decision, and action.

The truth is most of us are not taught how to make a true decision, and yet decision-making is such an important aspect of our life as humans. We are gifted with the ability to choose. It’s what sets us apart from everything else. And to top it off, according to Fresh Tracker Dr. Gary Klein on the Fresh Tracks podcast, what many of us were taught about how to make decisions is completely wrong! Most decision-making is done on a subconscious level and happens quickly. Not plotted out on a flow chart.

Making decisions on a conscious level and cultivating confidence and trust in yourself involves some self-reflection. How do you make decisions (quickly, intuitively, slowly, after months of research, you don’t unless you have to)? How often do you stick with the decisions you do make?

Here are a few factors that may be playing a role in your ability, or inability, to make a true decision.

Trust
Making a decision is also an exercise in how much you trust yourself. Decision-making is overloaded with beliefs and feelings that you may not be aware of at first glance. Not trusting yourself or your ability to make the right decision, but also trusting yourself that you will follow through and stick to your decision once you’ve made it are key motivators behind these beliefs. Next time you are in a position to make a decision, slow down and listen to your body. What’s it telling you? And how much of that do you agree with?

Fear
Fear frequently reigns its ugly head when it’s time to make a decision. Particularly when cutting Fresh Tracks! We may be afraid to lose something in making one choice over another. Or we are unwilling to give up the status quo – even if we say we want change, our decision-making doesn’t support that. Where is fear coming up for you in your decision-making?

Mindset
One last factor that dramatically effects your decisions is your belief about your ability to complete the task. Your mindset affects your decision-making. So, when confronted with making a different choice or when cutting Fresh Tracks and approaching something new, stop and examine your mindset. What are your beliefs about the matter? Why does it matter to your decision? Do you believe yourself and what you are committing to?

Trusting yourself when making decisions, taking action from a place of power, and stepping boldly into your path and purpose are all reasons to continue moving forward on your path cutting Fresh Tracks.

I thank you for being with me on this journey and I look forward to both of us continuing to cut Fresh Tracks!

Discover the Next Steps to Your Fresh Tracks in Kelly’s free video training here now.