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Everyone Is Mad at Me! Did I Make the Right Decision?

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Have you ever made a right decision from a completely powerful place? You knew it was the right decision to make, only to later find people are completely irate?

They take your actions personally and resent the change that occurred. It can be hard to understand because you were so sure you did the right thing!

Caught completely off guard watching these reactions, it’s easy to doubt yourself.

How do you respond? Start by doing this simple check-in on your motives, to ensure you made the right decision. These tips are from success coach David Neagle:

4 Questions to Ensure You Make the Right Decision

  1. Is this something you want to be, do or have?
  2. Is being, doing or having this taking you closer to your goal?
  3. Is being, doing or having this in alignment with Universal Law (more life to all)?
  4. Does being, doing or having this violate the rights of others (Does it take away someone’s right to choose)?

If you answered yes to first three questions and the last a no, you are aligned with your own growth and expansion.

Ideally, we ask ourselves these questions before we make a decision. However, this is a marvelous tool for doing a personal check-in when unsure if you made the right choice too.

Sometimes what is right for us can be upsetting to those around us, however, that doesn’t mean it’s not the right step to take. 

When opportunities for you to grow and expand present themselves fear can come up. Contracting is a normal response when afraid. We often must focus and consciously step into the expansion. When we expand it effects those around us and they rebel against the change. This leads to people upset with us and telling us we are doing something wrong. 

Use this tool before making a decision whenever you are unsure of yourself. AND, if you’ve ruffled some feathers along the way and doubting yourself, use the process to ensure you are in alignment with truth. 

Having a difficult time seeing the truth for yourself? A Spiritual Coaching Session with Kelly will do just that for you. Schedule one here now. 

3 Steps to Trusting Your Decisions

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Making decisions can be tough. Particularly when you are creating Fresh Tracks and stepping into new and uncharted territory. Why is making a decision so difficult when doing new things? Because you don’t have a history to support or justify your decision, particularly if it doesn’t turn out the way you choose.

In the first chapter of my book, Trust Your Next Step: Creating the Confidence to Cut Fresh Tracks we take a deep dive into making a true decision and what it entails. Part of what we review is your awareness, intention, decision, and action.

The truth is most of us are not taught how to make a true decision, and yet decision-making is such an important aspect of our life as humans. We are gifted with the ability to choose. It’s what sets us apart from everything else. And to top it off, according to Fresh Tracker Dr. Gary Klein on the Fresh Tracks podcast, what many of us were taught about how to make decisions is completely wrong! Most decision-making is done on a subconscious level and happens quickly. Not plotted out on a flow chart.

Making decisions on a conscious level and cultivating confidence and trust in yourself involves some self-reflection. How do you make decisions (quickly, intuitively, slowly, after months of research, you don’t unless you have to)? How often do you stick with the decisions you do make?

Here are a few factors that may be playing a role in your ability, or inability, to make a true decision.

Trust
Making a decision is also an exercise in how much you trust yourself. Decision-making is overloaded with beliefs and feelings that you may not be aware of at first glance. Not trusting yourself or your ability to make the right decision, but also trusting yourself that you will follow through and stick to your decision once you’ve made it are key motivators behind these beliefs. Next time you are in a position to make a decision, slow down and listen to your body. What’s it telling you? And how much of that do you agree with?

Fear
Fear frequently reigns its ugly head when it’s time to make a decision. Particularly when cutting Fresh Tracks! We may be afraid to lose something in making one choice over another. Or we are unwilling to give up the status quo – even if we say we want change, our decision-making doesn’t support that. Where is fear coming up for you in your decision-making?

Mindset
One last factor that dramatically effects your decisions is your belief about your ability to complete the task. Your mindset affects your decision-making. So, when confronted with making a different choice or when cutting Fresh Tracks and approaching something new, stop and examine your mindset. What are your beliefs about the matter? Why does it matter to your decision? Do you believe yourself and what you are committing to?

Trusting yourself when making decisions, taking action from a place of power, and stepping boldly into your path and purpose are all reasons to continue moving forward on your path cutting Fresh Tracks.

I thank you for being with me on this journey and I look forward to both of us continuing to cut Fresh Tracks!

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